Home and School Conversations

Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.

Philippians 4:8 English Standard Version (ESV)

Parents make their own choices about what is allowed in their homes.

  • Some parents allow children to watch movies or programs on television or streaming services that are recommended for older audiences.
  • Some parents facilitate younger children playing video games recommended for teens or older.
  • Some parents circumvent rules established by apps by allowing the child to falsify their age.

 

These are all parent decisions.

However,

  • I struggle to figure out why parents would not want to heed the recommendations made by industries that have exhibited very little care for the well-being of children. In other words if even the industry people say it is too violent, too sexual, the language too vulgar for kids, why wouldn’t parents heed this?
  • I struggle to understand why parents would teach children to ignore guidance or to even deceive and break rules.
  • I struggle, in a day when there are almost daily reports of on-line predators, parents would allow children to establish online relationships with “peers” the parents know nothing about.

But these are parent decisions.

Regardless, parents who make those decisions have an obligation to teach their children not to bring those experiences to school and share them with classmates.

  • To not talk about the violent or scary or sexual R rated movie they saw.
  • To not engage in conversations relative to the video game that is recommended for children older than the child. That is true even if the person they are talking to also plays that game. The conversation is not appropriate for our setting.
  • To not talk about using an app that very clearly has a minimum age unless the student and the listener have attained that age.
  • To not encourage classmates to also violate the app’s rules.

Parents who send their children to SPLS should be able to function with the basic expectation that their children will not hear or learn about age inappropriate things from classmates even if that classmate’s parents approve. That is just courtesy and consideration.

A sample conversation would go like this:

“Honey, now you know that the game you are playing is specifically for children who are fourteen and you are only ten. But we have decided that the guidance relative to the content (violence, sexual content, vulgar language, etc.) does not apply to you. We base this decision on (fill in the blank)

But other parents at school may not want their children to hear about this game. So, please, do not talk about the game to your classmates at school.

If this is too hard for you to do then maybe you are showing us you are not as (mature, discerning, cautious, caring) as we thought.”

We believe strongly that children are blessed when they are led to focus on that which is positive and good rather than on the violent, the hedonistic, or the self-centered.

In His Children’s Service, Robert C. Boyd

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