What’s Happening to the Boys?

For the past decade(s) schools have encouraged female students to expand educational horizons, to pursue interests that are outside the box of the traditional. That has been a good thing overall and it shows in statistics that indicate the majority of college students are female and even the majority in medical school are as well.

Unfortunately, sometimes it seems to build someone up there is a negative impact in others being put down. We see in schools that boys are facing some real challenges. No one would argue that the very system of education is particularly geared toward how boys’ brains work. But things have deteriorated in many ways for young men beyond the expectation to sit at a desk and do brain work.

It seems that in much of the culture that makes its way to TV screens and YouTube videos, young men are told they have all these unfair advantages. Yet in real life things are getting harder for them to be treated fairly and to be judged by their character rather than simply their gender. 

They are told that acting like a boy is in the eyes of some “toxic” and to be tamped down and replaced with something less masculine. Of course, no one condones harmful or violent behavior. But you do not have to force boys to completely remake the way they were created in order to fit into some new mold that someone who is not male has prescribed for them.

The article I am linking to below is certainly one where an opinion is expressed, but it is an opinion rarely heard these days and I believe is worth considering to contrast the message heard over and over in the culture.


And for you parents of boys, you need to be aware of what the culture potentially has in store for them.

At SPLS, we confess our belief in a creator God who made male and female unique and in many ways very different. That is a beautiful thing and part of God’s design. It will never be our goal to cram young ladies into a mold that would state that the more they seek out roles that are traditionally male the better off they are. Instead, we will say that girls are often wired uniquely to serve very effectively in the roles they choose. Having the choice is vital. But no one should say that unless there are equal numbers of men and women in certain roles it is evidence of bias or discrimination, at least not in a world where women and men are free to choose what they feel led to do.

In His Children’s Service, Robert C. Boyd

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